The kind of misery I’m talking about is the ability to get uncomfortable & down right miserable in the pursuit of a worthy goal.
Think about the athletes training for the Olympics’. They may love the sport but they’ve found a way to be miserable in the pursuit of something great.
They train regardless of the pain and accept that it’s part of the territory.
The pain is not going away.
If fact, the pain is a guide… the athlete knows when he feels some pain, he’s breaking down, building and strengthening muscles.
The same is true for us ordinary people.
The fear will never go away and we will never have more time than we have in this moment.
We make a decision that our goal is worth waking up at 4:00am for. Its worth living with a little sleep deprivation and its worth walking through fears.
It’s okay to be temporarily miserable because true misery is having dreams and NOT pursuing them.
When you go to bed at night after you’ve worked all day, cooked dinner, did home work with the kids, cleaned the house and even spent one hour working on your dream job … you feel like a super hero.
You’re taking charge of your life and your happiness.
You’re not sitting around waiting for circumstances to suddenly align and fear to finally disappear before you begin.
To your dreams,
Nicole Guillory
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Monday, July 28, 2008
A Miserable Rotten Day.
Have you ever had one of those days that just stinks…
you’re in a rotten mood and you have no idea why.
Yesterday, I had one of those days.
I wanted to go back to bed but I wasn’t tired. I tried
watching T.V., then I was disgusted by all the negative
garbage I was seeing.
I wanted to do something exciting but I didn’t know
what it was.
My house was a mess and I was a mess.
I noticed that I was wishing it was Monday, so I
wouldn't have to think about all of this.
Now, you know you’re in trouble when you want the
weekend to be over so you can go back to work.
That was my cue.
Something was wrong and I needed to find out what.
Years ago I had a lot more tolerance for misery, but
not any more.
I was sitting on my couch wondering what to do when
I saw a book on my bookshelf that caught my attention.
It was the The War of Art by Stephen Pressfield.
I picked it up and started thumbing through the pages
and I was fascinated all over again. It had been years
since I last read it, but today it really applied to my
miserable condition.
He talks about the crazy things that get in the way of
any worthy pursuit whether it’s working out, sticking
to a diet, writing a book or even starting a business.
We often sabotage our efforts with fears, self doubt,
all sorts of distractions and even creating drama in our
lives.
The moment we ignore all the craziness and weird
thinking and get back in the game… we feel better.
Simply taking a couple of hours to re-read this small
book changed the outcome of my day.
I was able to see that all of those wacky, fearful and
insecure emotions were a clever attempt to derail my
progress.
Years ago I made a decision to be positive and take
100% responsibility for everything in my life.
It wasn’t easy, but now when I start feeling negative
or like a victim in any way … That’s my warning sign
because it’s so out of character for me today.
Instead of ruining my day and the next day… which
is what I would have done years ago, I was able to
stop the destruction and have a great day.
Have a wonderful day!
Nicole
you’re in a rotten mood and you have no idea why.
Yesterday, I had one of those days.
I wanted to go back to bed but I wasn’t tired. I tried
watching T.V., then I was disgusted by all the negative
garbage I was seeing.
I wanted to do something exciting but I didn’t know
what it was.
My house was a mess and I was a mess.
I noticed that I was wishing it was Monday, so I
wouldn't have to think about all of this.
Now, you know you’re in trouble when you want the
weekend to be over so you can go back to work.
That was my cue.
Something was wrong and I needed to find out what.
Years ago I had a lot more tolerance for misery, but
not any more.
I was sitting on my couch wondering what to do when
I saw a book on my bookshelf that caught my attention.
It was the The War of Art by Stephen Pressfield.
I picked it up and started thumbing through the pages
and I was fascinated all over again. It had been years
since I last read it, but today it really applied to my
miserable condition.
He talks about the crazy things that get in the way of
any worthy pursuit whether it’s working out, sticking
to a diet, writing a book or even starting a business.
We often sabotage our efforts with fears, self doubt,
all sorts of distractions and even creating drama in our
lives.
The moment we ignore all the craziness and weird
thinking and get back in the game… we feel better.
Simply taking a couple of hours to re-read this small
book changed the outcome of my day.
I was able to see that all of those wacky, fearful and
insecure emotions were a clever attempt to derail my
progress.
Years ago I made a decision to be positive and take
100% responsibility for everything in my life.
It wasn’t easy, but now when I start feeling negative
or like a victim in any way … That’s my warning sign
because it’s so out of character for me today.
Instead of ruining my day and the next day… which
is what I would have done years ago, I was able to
stop the destruction and have a great day.
Have a wonderful day!
Nicole
Monday, July 7, 2008
Throw down your pom poms…
I was in the mood for shutting my brain off this weekend and decided to watch a little T.V. While I was channel surfing, I saw a musician being interviewed, so I stopped to listen.
The musician was Trace Adkins and he was talking about the defining moment when he made a decision to become a real musician.
He had received a call one day from a friend about his music career, which he had given up on … thinking it was just a pipe dream.
After he finished whining about his lack of success, his friend said “When are you going to throw down your pom poms and get in the game”?
Surprised, he said “What do you mean, get in the game? I’ve been trying, just no luck.”
His friend said “trying? If you were really trying, you’d be in Nashville.”
At that moment, he realized that if he didn’t do this, he’d spend the rest of his life wondering … “What if?”
Wow, did this strike a chord with me!
You see, I’m the kind of person that’s sees talent and brilliance in everyone … else.
I think most of us are really good supporters of our friends and loved ones but when it comes to our dreams, we down play the importance of giving it your all.
During this interview, I realized that I would go to any length to help out anyone else but I wasn’t really playing the game for myself.
Why, you wonder?
Perhaps … A hundred different forms of fear.
You know, the funny thing about fear is that it will never go away until you face it.
Then, guess what?
There will be a new, bigger, more powerful one waiting for you to conquer once again.
I’ll share a little secret…
I used to think that I had more fears than most people. I truly believed that something was wrong with me and that it wasn’t natural to feel so much fear.
A good friend and mentor told me that I was comparing my insides to other people’s outside’s.
She said, “Everyone feels fear, but it’s what you do with the fear that matters most.”
If fear is holding you back, a great book to read is Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers.
So, throw down the pom poms, feel the fear and get in the game!
Have a wonderful day!
Nicole
The musician was Trace Adkins and he was talking about the defining moment when he made a decision to become a real musician.
He had received a call one day from a friend about his music career, which he had given up on … thinking it was just a pipe dream.
After he finished whining about his lack of success, his friend said “When are you going to throw down your pom poms and get in the game”?
Surprised, he said “What do you mean, get in the game? I’ve been trying, just no luck.”
His friend said “trying? If you were really trying, you’d be in Nashville.”
At that moment, he realized that if he didn’t do this, he’d spend the rest of his life wondering … “What if?”
Wow, did this strike a chord with me!
You see, I’m the kind of person that’s sees talent and brilliance in everyone … else.
I think most of us are really good supporters of our friends and loved ones but when it comes to our dreams, we down play the importance of giving it your all.
During this interview, I realized that I would go to any length to help out anyone else but I wasn’t really playing the game for myself.
Why, you wonder?
Perhaps … A hundred different forms of fear.
You know, the funny thing about fear is that it will never go away until you face it.
Then, guess what?
There will be a new, bigger, more powerful one waiting for you to conquer once again.
I’ll share a little secret…
I used to think that I had more fears than most people. I truly believed that something was wrong with me and that it wasn’t natural to feel so much fear.
A good friend and mentor told me that I was comparing my insides to other people’s outside’s.
She said, “Everyone feels fear, but it’s what you do with the fear that matters most.”
If fear is holding you back, a great book to read is Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers.
So, throw down the pom poms, feel the fear and get in the game!
Have a wonderful day!
Nicole
Monday, June 30, 2008
Knights In Shining Armor …
I was talking to a friend yesterday about making mistakes and going through difficult times. You know … the big, life altering mistakes and struggles.
As much as I don’t like painful experiences, I always grow as a person because of it.
All of your struggles and triumphs over time become your story and the most powerful tool you have to help others and really make a difference in the world.
One of the biggest struggles in my life is the reason why I am so passionate about transforming the way we look at education.
When I was a kid in school … I was an average student and I didn’t appear to have any real talent. I wasn’t an athlete, so I didn’t get a self esteem or confidence boost there.
Because I wasn’t an “A” student, I believed that I wasn’t smart.
Even though I didn’t believe I was smart and had lousy ACT scores, I still wanted to do something extraordinary with my life.
I remember thinking about careers and what I wanted to do with my life.
The problem was … I was too afraid to tell anyone what I was thinking about. I thought … “people might laugh and not take me serious; after all, I’m really not that smart.”
I didn’t breathe a word of it until my senior year in high school.
By this point, I had a teacher I really liked and trusted. One day, while working together on a school project, she asked me what I wanted to do with my life.
I was so afraid to answer. My heart was pounding and I thought about saying “I don’t know.” I was dying to get her opinion so I said, “I’m thinking about studying architecture.”
To my surprise, she said “I think that’s a great idea, you’d be really good at it”
That one person believing in me completely changed my life.
Even though I didn’t fit the traditional school setting, I thrived in the creative world of design and architecture.
After many long and difficult years, I did become an get my Bachelors in Architecture.
There are so many kids, just like me, that don’t fit traditional methods of education, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t talented.
My learning didn’t stop at graduation. Since then, I’ve explored and grown my talents, purpose and passion.
Because of that work, I now have a job that I truly love as a college instructor.
A couple of days ago, I taught a group of 25 high school students who are enrolled in a summer college program.
When they first walked in to my classroom they were happy, laughing and seemed to be having fun.
As soon as we got onto the subject of “what do you want to do with your life”, these happy-go-lucky kids lost their smiles and laughter … even their posture changed.
They looked like they were all wearing shiny silver metal suites of armor and their faces were blank.
The change was drastic.
Though, I wasn’t surprised.
It happens every time I work with a new group of students, young or old.
At one time, I wore the same protective suit of armor.
Now, I share my story of struggle and success hoping to inspire as many people as I can.
When you discover your talents and find a career that you love, your energy and passion will move, touch and inspire everyone that you come into contact with.
Have a wonderful day!
Nicole Guillory
If you have any questions or comments, please email me at Nicole@dreamjobsecrets.com
As much as I don’t like painful experiences, I always grow as a person because of it.
All of your struggles and triumphs over time become your story and the most powerful tool you have to help others and really make a difference in the world.
One of the biggest struggles in my life is the reason why I am so passionate about transforming the way we look at education.
When I was a kid in school … I was an average student and I didn’t appear to have any real talent. I wasn’t an athlete, so I didn’t get a self esteem or confidence boost there.
Because I wasn’t an “A” student, I believed that I wasn’t smart.
Even though I didn’t believe I was smart and had lousy ACT scores, I still wanted to do something extraordinary with my life.
I remember thinking about careers and what I wanted to do with my life.
The problem was … I was too afraid to tell anyone what I was thinking about. I thought … “people might laugh and not take me serious; after all, I’m really not that smart.”
I didn’t breathe a word of it until my senior year in high school.
By this point, I had a teacher I really liked and trusted. One day, while working together on a school project, she asked me what I wanted to do with my life.
I was so afraid to answer. My heart was pounding and I thought about saying “I don’t know.” I was dying to get her opinion so I said, “I’m thinking about studying architecture.”
To my surprise, she said “I think that’s a great idea, you’d be really good at it”
That one person believing in me completely changed my life.
Even though I didn’t fit the traditional school setting, I thrived in the creative world of design and architecture.
After many long and difficult years, I did become an get my Bachelors in Architecture.
There are so many kids, just like me, that don’t fit traditional methods of education, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t talented.
My learning didn’t stop at graduation. Since then, I’ve explored and grown my talents, purpose and passion.
Because of that work, I now have a job that I truly love as a college instructor.
A couple of days ago, I taught a group of 25 high school students who are enrolled in a summer college program.
When they first walked in to my classroom they were happy, laughing and seemed to be having fun.
As soon as we got onto the subject of “what do you want to do with your life”, these happy-go-lucky kids lost their smiles and laughter … even their posture changed.
They looked like they were all wearing shiny silver metal suites of armor and their faces were blank.
The change was drastic.
Though, I wasn’t surprised.
It happens every time I work with a new group of students, young or old.
At one time, I wore the same protective suit of armor.
Now, I share my story of struggle and success hoping to inspire as many people as I can.
When you discover your talents and find a career that you love, your energy and passion will move, touch and inspire everyone that you come into contact with.
Have a wonderful day!
Nicole Guillory
If you have any questions or comments, please email me at Nicole@dreamjobsecrets.com
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